We can live life one of two ways. We can take ownership in our lives or we can take the victims role. When we take the victims role we tend to think in terms of “have to” “should” “got to”, terms that denote a surrender of control, a surrender of any real choice. Yes, there are many things in life that require attention. There are things we need to do in order to affect the outcome we desire. The difference is in how we view the outcome and how we view our part in making the outcome possible.
In the ownership role, we look at ourselves as a full part of every equation. The thinking process is more along the lines of “want to” “desire to” “going to”, terms that suggest action on a deliberate level. Doing things that we want to do in order to affect the outcome we desire to have. We transcend from victim to owner once we begin to think in terms of “want to”, “desire to” and “going to”. In the owners role we take full stock in knowing that if we don’t want to do something, we have the ability to express that knowledge and to abstain from participating. We don’t feel threatened by victim thinking.
When we look at life it’s easy to slip into the victim role and not even notice it. It’s easy to believe that we have to go to that job that we can’t stand or that we should do what other people want us to do. When you take the victim role, you go thru life without really being able to affect the outcome without somebody else’s permission. In the ownership role, there is a power, a drive that pushes one to look at the world differently. We go to a job that we want to be at. We do what we want to at work. We do what we want to in our social lives. We are a part of each role and demand of our lives.
The ownership role isn’t easy. It requires us to accept...
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